Maggie Appleton 写设计、人类学和智能体界面时，习惯先画清楚隐喻，再谈工具。把「Growing a Human: The First 30 Weeks」整理成可阅读的中文笔记：问题在哪、界面默认会把人带去哪、落地时该改什么。原站导航、评论回响和广告已去掉。

Living with Schrödinger’s Baby

Pregnant people, partners of pregnant people, people who expect to become pregnant at some point, and anyone curious about the experience of growing another human inside of you.

I’m currently growing a human – my first. Having never grown a human before, and spent very little time around other people growing humans, the past six months have been a constant parade of surprises. This is a smörgåsbord of reflections on my first 30+ weeks of pregnancy, from holding space for potential loss, to our strange obsession with comparing babies to an escalating array of fruits, to the barrage of social media mumfluencers demanding we maximise

Evolution Is Indifferent to Your Suffering

Living with Schrödinger’s Baby For the first few months of being pregnant, you have to assume you are both pregnant and not pregnant. You would think this would be more clear cut. Surely pregnant means pregnant? Apparently not.

There’s a relatively high chance of miscarriage within the first 12 weeks of a pregnancy. Most actually happen before the 7th week (95% in Tong 2008 ), but 12 weeks is the accepted metric. This risk of loss decreases sharply week-by-week, but to play it safe, everyone tells you not to spread the news until after this milestone. Lest you have to awkwardly message people later to announce the baby party is cancelled. A good rule of thumb is don’t tell anyone

Arbitrary Fruit Babies

For the nervous among us who like to seek comfort in statistics, this pregnancy loss calculator comes in handy.

Once you’re past the 12 week mark, you may officially have a baby, but you don’t necessarily have a healthy and functioning baby. For that you have to wait until the 20 week mark when you get a full anatomy scan and learn that all of baby’s limbs and organs are in good working order.

Unconscious Expertise and Existential Vibes

I began to refer to this whole situation as being pregnant with Schrödinger’s baby. You both have a baby and do not have a baby. You have to make plans that assume there will be a baby in your life within the next 4-6 months – such as telling work, figuring out where a crib might go, making a budget, strategising childcare, and begin researching how to keep a baby alive – but simultaneously not get too emotionally attached to the idea of actually having a

This pretending to not-be-entirely-pregnant is made complex by the fact you first go through the potentially debilitating experience of all-day-all-the-time ”morning” sickness at the start of this period, and become visibly pregnant towards the end of it. This is a good exercise in holding two contradictory truths in your mind at once. A bit like a zen koan .

All Natural, Organic, Granola, Earth Mothering

Before pregnancy, I had some fuzzy, semi-spiritual belief that the long and magical process of evolution was on my side and always served my best interests. Even if our bodies have their quirks , they’ve been molded by millions of years of evolution to keep us alive and thriving in earthly environments.

All the parts of human anatomy that don't have clear evolutionary advantages or seem actively unhelpful and poorly designed – Source: Quirks of Human Anatomy (Held 2009) But “alive”, doesn’t mean happy, comfortable, or feeling like you’re bathed in warm light. Evolution is perfectly fine with you feeling like you’ve been sucked into a dark, joyless black hole of nausea and fatigue – as long as you’re alive while there. As long as you reproduce and the offs

Traditional and Tribal Parenting

This sums up my experience of “morning sickness” in the first trimester. Based on depictions on television and film, I expected to promptly throw up each morning after smelling a particularly strong coffee, and then proceed with my day as usual.

I did not expect to feel permanently carsick, chronically exhausted, and always-about-to-vomit from 6am to 6pm, every day, for 8 weeks. This turned out to be fairly debilitating for everyday tasks. Fittingly for stepping into parenthood, I had to start holding my notion of “the kind of person I am” very lightly. Pre-pregnancy-sickness, I had a bunch of moral-high-ground-ideas about the kind of standards I hold myself to on a daily basis.

落地时建议先做的 5 件事

1. 先写清这个工具在强化思考还是在替人思考。
2. 默认交互不要只会谄媚：该追问、该给反例、该要求证据。
3. 智能体界面要露出推理步骤，而不是只给一个光滑答案。
4. 知识发布用可生长的笔记，而不是一次性营销长文。
5. 改产品前先画隐喻：用户以为自己在做什么，系统实际在做什么。

和智能体产品怎么接

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